My husband and i are separated and he is dating
I felt really crappy although all my friends told me it was no big deal. We ended things about 6 weeks later because I found that I simply wasn’t ready to date someone exclusively. My divorce should be finalized within the next upcoming months. There are just so many variables that can make it complicated.I learned that I definitely needed time in between relationships. some do not ask me out again (I’m assuming that my I’m not-quite-divorced yet status may have something to do with it… Last week I went on a date with this guy and when I told him that I was in the process of getting divorced he said “so you’re married!? I would definitely recommend anyone considering it take the decision very seriously.And evolutionarily speaking, women might accurately feel they are running out of time; with every decade past men’s 20s, guys who can snag ever-younger partners do, leaving straight women of their own cohort short of available mates: “….[My now-ex] said I had no right to date because we were ‘still married’, ha!We were only ‘still married’ because he was refusing the divorce!I was in my late 30’s and unprepared to spend the rest of my life waiting for him to let go as I watched the good men snapped up by other, younger, women….” As you’ve found, Dan, some of the not-quite-divorced lie to get a little contact.They might fear rejection; they may not have thought through the consequences.
Maybe they just want fun, sex, and a break from the bleakness.Should I have one coffee date and see what I think? Eventually, we told them, and about 2 years later our divorce was final…..[He also] knew that it would take me time to re-enter the workforce after having been a stay at home mom to our children, and that after we were divorced I would have no health insurance… ) First off, why are many people so eager to date before they’re divorced—sometimes to the point of hiding their still-married status?Well, this relationship flourished and we started dating exclusively. I felt that if I told him that truth he would be angry at me for not telling him sooner and not trust me….” Aaaand then, there are the folks who use separation as a testing ground for the supposedly-deceased marriage.Consciously or not, these people are using you as a jealousy-inducer—a way to renew their marriage bonds and reinvigorate their spouse’s affections by showcasing how desirable they are to others: “….